April Chandler

Is Feminism the answer?

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I never thought this was possible, but after directing “Forgotten” and witnessing what it’s like with my own two eyes on the ground, how bad human trafficking, sexual abuse et cetera has become worldwide, I may now relate a tiny winy bit to feminists – I’m talking a tad, not much more than that. It’s hard not to feel this way after witnessing the horrific events I’ve seen with young girls. How millions of girls are treated worldwide is beyond horrific.

When will we open our eyes and see for ourselves that equality isn’t achievable under current society norms?

I’m not anti men, not in the slightest, and the best people I know globally are men, who I relate to and trust more than the women I know – you know what you are going to get with a man in a friendship, whereas women can be fickle, emotional, insecure – one minute you are close friends, the next, you are not because a man they know complemented you and they are threatened by your presence. I have some wonderful girl friends, but definitely closer to my male friends overall. I’m lucky to know amazing men, but unfortunately, there are millions of men who exploit girls and use them as commodities across all countries, not just the so called “third world countries”, but even the wealthy like the USA, UK, China, Germany, Australia (who are trying to pass a new modern day slavery bill)…

I wrote this in a comment earlier, that until Margaret Thatcher became PM in the UK, women couldn’t even buy their own house without a man. Would it have changed if she hadn’t become PM?

It will never work on a 50/50 equality level, so where is the happy medium? Does it have to be 50/50 for true equality or can’t we all just respect one another and find the right role for each of us in this crazy world regardless of gender? I don’t think women have to emasculate men in order to be strong. Be great at what you do, shine a bright light on your skills and on you as a woman, not just be strong, stubborn, in-charge, wearing the trousers just for the sake of it because you think that’s what you need to do in order to keep the upper hand. Relationships are a balance and it is best to combine your skills to make a whole, helping both of you to become the best versions of yourself.

Empowering men and women to change the tide is crucial to the future for all of us. Slavery, human trafficking, abuse is the third highest crime in the world and 99% are girls. There are millions of men around the world watching online while other men abuse a 5 year old girl for their entertainment, and other men get rich from the enterprise. It’s less than 0.001% of women that would be watching something of this nature or involved in barbaric activities that hurt young girls. The men involved in all levels are husbands, fathers, brothers, nephews, they are so called “normal’ family men. Not loners or so called “sickos”.

For every amazing man out there, there are thousands more that treat girls as commodities – it’s how they’ve been raised to view women, but why? And how can we change this perception if things are truly to evolve for men or women? I believe it’s more about a classist society, not about men. If we remove “Royals” and aristocrats globally, this would certainly be a start and would allow us to appreciate people for their talents, not their inherited status.

Society towards girls isn’t progressing with the technological revolution, instead, girls are treated worse with advances in technology and I find it disturbing that close to 1 million children disappear from North America each year, most of which are girls and can’t continue to happen if we want the world to change.

Please stop thinking and “assuming” where you live is wonderful, safe, abuse, violent free, “human trafficking doesn’t happen here”, when the facts show it’s happening next door to where you live, whether it’s a wealthy area or a not so wealthy community, it’s happening everywhere.

Sorry if this offends some of my male followers. It’s not that I’m a feminist or against men, because I’m not, far from it and don’t agree Feminism is the answer, not even on the worst day of filming, but this is the first time the thought of feminism entered my head because of all the atrocities I’ve seen with my own eyes towards young girls. It’s barbaric and far from humane. I’m not pointing the finger and saying it’s you, but there’s a lot of messed up sh*t out there and it’s not masses of women causing it directly, but the masses of men! Although, women are not innocent and causing many other issues, just not this particular one. The truth can sometimes hurt. Is it possible that men at home get emasculated so much by their wife, mother… that they feel they have to treat girls they don’t know like garbage in order to gain some power and self respect back? Although, I feel they’d have less respect in my eyes for treating girls in such horrific ways regardless of what they are experiencing at home. It’s a deeper issue in our society that we need to address head-on. It’s not just a woman problem to solve, but both a man and woman, husband and wife, mother and son, father and daughter, brother and sister…

I’m a mother with three incredible children, two are amazing sons, and they’d never treat girls or women in a negative way, but I’ve taught them from birth to respect everyone regardless of gender, and they have been lucky to travel with me and have seen with their own eyes how bad it is for so many, how cruel it is for millions, the poverty is very real, which has changed their perspective, but they’ve also seen how wonderous and incredible humanity is too and how wonderful the world truly is.

This photo is my 9 year old daughter Meadow who has dreams, BIG dreams, just like all the other little girls out there who right at this moment are having their world’s crushed by abusers, trafficked as animals, treated as less than human, not important because to many out there she’s just a “girl” a commodity to be bought and sold.

I’d love to hear thoughts on this whether you agree or disagree and solutions to this growing problem worldwide.

Love,

April

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