Who am I? Define yourself by what you do today, not where you came from!

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Who am I? Is probably the most asked question when people are alone, unsure about themselves and need answers and direction with their lives and reassurance they are doing the right thing, walking the right path for them.

First thing I would say is that everyone has a story, a past that is upsetting, embarrassing, horrific, but what’s important is to not let what happened in your childhood to negatively affect your adulthood as carrying that heavy weight of baggage will make you unhappy, give you ill heath, stress, affect your relationships, leave a chip on your shoulder.. the list is endless. What you can do is use what’s happened to you in a positive way and influence change in your own life as well as others that need a bit more support after going through similar life experiences.

Me as a toddler

Me as a toddler

Are you a victim or survivor? 

For me, I’ve never been a victim, I was always a survivor and even though going through my childhood wasn’t easy, it’s made me who I am today and I’m pretty much happy with who I am and how I chose to live my life. Yes, of course I still mess up in a big way, make wrong choices, but everything I do comes from a place of love, deeper happiness, determination to help others that need my help and not motivated by material objects or money. I remember being that way back in the day, mostly because I felt I had a lot to prove and having a successful business and money seemed like a good way to measure myself, but I soon learned a lesson (when all my belongings got lost going from the USA to South Africa) and I had nothing other than a suitcase of clothes. Losing everything was a blessing as I’d become extremely superficial and spent way too much money on irrelevant purchases, especially while living in LA so starting with nothing again was helpful and I’d recommend others emptying their closets, removing unnecessary possessions from their life. It’s somewhat liberating!


I have worked hard on myself to be who I am today, it didn’t happen by luck or accident, but awareness on my part to change my stars and live the life I want for myself and my family, rather than letting my childhood affect my life and allow the cycle to continue with my own children, which does happen and is very damaging indeed. The key is understanding ourselves on a deeper level and knowing when we react a certain way, where it comes from and how to heal ourselves to ensure we react differently next time, always improving our thoughts, words and consequently actions.

… Weird Science Experiment…

When I was 14 years old I made a decision that would change my life forever. I decided to be my own creator and become the creation I would have dreamed up if I was in a laboratory doing a ‘weird science experiment’ be it in my own 5ft 5 inch body, as not much I can do about that, although keeping yourself healthy will improve what you were born with! I didn’t consciously say I wasn’t going to follow anyone’s programme, path, vision but instead would get out the digger and build my own road, but that’s exactly what I did. It helped that I had an Entrepreneurial spirit at a young age, street wise (I was a survivor remember, so had to be) with a drive to understand myself, others and be more than I was at that moment, regardless of how I was treated by others, judged and criticised endlessly by those in a position of authority.

I remember being in the Royal Navy careers office when I was 16 years old and was desperate to join (I tried joining at 14 while pretending to be 16, but they saw right through me and told me to come back), mostly because I wanted to see the World as I always believed there was more out there than what I had seen which would change my life, but I think it was for security, three guaranteed meals per day and a bed to sleep in every night. After I sat the Royal Navy exams and was told I’d been accepted to join Her Majesty’s Service with an entry date after my 17th birthday, I saw a trophy in a cabinet and asked the Royal Navy Careers Officer what it was. He told me it was the Owen Cup awarded to the person in new entry for the highest marks in all aspects of their training. He went on to say, ‘don’t concern yourself with the Owen Cup as only the smart recruits with GCSE’s win it, not recruits like you’.

…what you say to others can affect them either positively or negatively, given my experience, I choose to encourage, not suppress…

The winner also had the opportunity to work in the Royal Navy Careers Office from their hometown for two weeks after they finished their training as a reward to spend time with their families. I think because I was so desperate to impress the trainers, and was pretty hands on in all aspects of the training like weapons, running, survival (funny enough ;-)) and knew in the back of my mind if I didn’t make the cut and pass the training, I’d be back on the street at risk of ending up on the wrong side of the Law, so I was a model recruit and off course, won the Owen Cup but as I didn’t have a place to stay, I stayed on base and worked as an assistant to a Psychologist as I was interested in my inner self and the World around me. They packaged it like I was assisting, but it was more than likely because my Warrant Officer at the time knew I was damaged goods and needed someone to help me open up, explore what made me tick, see what I was capable of if guided by positive forces rather than negative ones. I always wondered what it would have been like to go back to the Royal Navy Careers Office and work with the Recruitment Officer who judged me so wrongly when we met. It might have made him think twice about belittling someone next time, who knows.

I also won the Pembroke Prize in my specialised training and as a result was drafted to work for the Admiral of the Fleet Sir Jeremy Black and became the youngest recruit to ever work for an Admiral which opened my eyes up to so much, including good quality food and a high standard of living, something I’d never been privy to. During my career I competed at a high level and was the Royal Navy champion in various sports for 4 consecutive years and became the first woman in the Royal Navy to compete in the A Crew of the Brickwood’s Field Gun making it to the finals and leading the way for countless other women.

Me as part of the Brickwood's Field Gun Crew

Me as part of the Brickwood’s Field Gun Crew

Since my early Navy days, I’ve gone to University, travelled the World as a Speaker, published books including my latest one The Little Book of Wonder Foods and Juices, written articles for magazines, presented on television, radio, created my own system of health and training products and programmes and continue to be sought after in the world of health and fitness.

Never let anyone tell you, you won’t amount to anything because it’s not true!

Everything I am today is a product of my creation in my weird science laboratory and nothing to do with inherited genes, where I was born…, If you are not happy with who you are, then change to who you do want to be. I’m not suggesting faking it and wearing a mask as that won’t last and will never bring you happiness or love, I mean be authentic but be the person you want to be, not what you’ve been conditioned to believe you can be or base it on your genes, skin colour, language, intelligence, gender… Anyone can change who they are. Trust me, I know, I did it myself.

When I ask myself now who am I? I say ‘I’m me’. I’m a Mother. A Partner. A Friend. A Wellness Activist. A Philanthropist. A Entrepreneur. A Wonder Woman. And anything else I choose to be!

…Who are you?…


Me, today!

Me, today!













My talk on Wonder for CrowdShed covers some of what I said above and gives key actions to help change your life. #wonder

I hope you’ve enjoyed this blog. If you have any comments or questions, please get in touch or connect with me on my Facebook page www.facebook.com/aprilchandler and Twitter @chandlerapril

I’d love to hear from you.


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April Chandler
Wellness Activist, Author & Keynote Speaker


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